31 Days of Living the Good Life.

You’ve landed at my 31 DAYS OF WRITING IN OCTOBER Page!

Join me on this super fun journey while I write about living the good life. I’ll write about being a mom, being a wife (to my husband who recently became a quadruple amputee,) and the joys and challenges that come with those roles. I’ll share about my faith in God, the reason my family and I are living the “good life” that we enjoy today!

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You’ll find links to all my posts below. I hope you enjoy! Please, please contact me for any reason! I’d love to hear from you! Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe if you’d like to receive my posts through email. Grab a cup of coffee and stay awhile. I’m excited to tell you how I’m living the good life one day at a time!

Day 1: Hello, Fall! I’ve been expecting you!

Day 2: Throwback Thursday. Beach.

Day 3: JOY in the Lord

Day 4: Video: ‘Disabled mannequins will change the way you see beauty’

Day 5: Take Care of Yourself.

Day 6: Give Grace.

Day 7: What happened to Ian anyway? part 1

Day 8: What happened to Ian anyway? part 2

Day 9: TBT. Mother.

Day 10: Long Week and a Movie Night

Day 11/12: Old Army

Day 13: Family Time

Day 14: Rest.

Day 15: Words are Powerful.

Day 20. Sausage, potato, and kale soup.

Day 21: Letter to my daughter.

Day 22: Letter to my oldest son.

Day 23: TBT. Vail.


Sept. 30 post:  I’m doing it! I decided to participate in the challenge. I will write EVERY SINGLE DAY in October!

It will be nice to take a break from my memoir to write about other things on my heart. Writing consistently will hopefully be good for my soul, which desperately needs to be uplifted and encouraged. Don’t expect a lot of deep posts, some will just be photos or videos, or anything else I can think of. BUT, I do promise SOMETHING. There will be a new post everyday… or else… geez… I don’t know. Something bad.

Wish me luck!

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13


Do you ever find yourself discouraged even when you know you’re doing the right thing? Last night, I said to Ian, “I quit. I’m not doing the book. I’m not doing the blog. I’m done.”
Things were just getting too hard. Too overwhelming. I feel like all I think about is the book, and yet I’ve made no progress (at least not visible to me.) I’ve missed my writers group meeting for two weeks. I’m bummed.
So I prayed last night. I prayed for God to make it very clear. What am I supposed to do?
This morning I’m hopeful again. I’ll work hard. I’ll try my best if this is what I’m supposed to do.
But it won’t be easy. I don’t think He ever said it would be.

So, expect obstacles. Expect trouble. Even affliction. But press on. Press on. Press on. The reward will be worth it in the end.

Here I go again.

joy in suffering.

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I never thought suffering could be a good thing. The definition of suffering is the following: pain that is caused by injury, illness, loss, etc. : physical, mental, or emotional pain. So the very definition of the word is negative. Who would ever want to suffer? Who would ever want to experience pain?

As I think back to the days of Ian becoming ill, not knowing whether he would live or die, I am reminded of a very real suffering I went through. Months later, I continued to suffer through his amputations, seeing him and my children go through such an unexpected thing. Through it all, I held on to the following verses with all my heart. Denisse, be grateful for this suffering. Denisse, this suffering will produce hope. Denisse, only God can strengthen you after you’ve suffered a little while. Denisse, hang in there. It can only get better.

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. James 1:2-3

We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. Romans 5:3-5

So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. 1Peter 5:10b

I don’t know what exactly you may be going through. If you are suffering, I do know how hard it can be. BUT, I am here to tell you, from the other side, it will get better. AND God is faithful. He WILL get you through. He WILL strengthen you. AND you WILL grow. I promise you won’t even be the same person coming out of it. The person you were before will be replaced with a newly improved better version of yourself, one that HE has lovingly shaped according to his will and for his own glory. Hang in there, dear friend.

I’d love to hear from you if I can help in any way. dwarshak(at) gmail.com




Big night.

Tonight, for the first time since January 20, 2006, everyone in my house will sleep in underwear. The Warshak family has moved on to the next stage, one without diapers or pull-ups. ALL MY CHILDREN are toilet trained! It’s too good to be true.

Am I a little bit sad? Maybe a teeny tiny bit. Ian and I have raised our kids up to this point and we are graduating to parenting bigger kids. We don’t have babies anymore. It’s both exciting and scary to think about what this next stage will bring.

***On a positive note, we have a little extra spending money now. What should we spend it on??

tough.. but worth it.

This is post from a year and a half ago. I’m sharing part of it again because its a good one and still applies. 🙂


I miss Ian’s fingers.  I really do.  It makes me cry when I think about the fact that I will never again feel his fingers intertwined with mine.  I try not to think about it.  Because it makes me sad.  And I don’t want to seem ungrateful that he is here with me by focusing on that.

I also miss his feet.  We’ve always had a king size bed, and we both like our own space to sleep, but every once in a while, we would fall asleep with our feet overlapping one other.  I miss that.  We won’t ever be able to do that again.

I don’t share these things to make you feel sorry for me and Ian.  I say it because I hope that you don’t take it for granted in your life if you have it.  Protect your marriage.  Love your spouse.  Appreciate every single moment.  Marriage can be tough.. but definitely worth it.

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