good day.

Last night was a little rough.  We got home around 6:30pm after getting the kids, Ian’s medicines, and soup for Ian.  We ate dinner, skipped baths, and kids went straight to bed.  Ian and I stayed up a little longer than they did, but not much.

Ian has a pin in his hand and we are supposed to take really really good care of it.  Any movement or accidental injury can really do damage to what has been done during surgery.  At dinner last night, Luke was sitting in the chair to Ian’s left and I would tell that he was afraid that Luke would bump into him or hurt him somehow.  AND yes, that would not be unusual for Luke since he is so busy, so I moved him across the table.  We were all a bit less stressed out about that.  It will be a challenge to keep the boys away from Ian for three weeks.  OR at the very least keep them from jumping around or running around him.

Bedtime stressed me out a bit.  I’m very worried that Ian will roll over on his hand and hurt it, OR that he will fall out of bed (he has no feet, remember) and use his hand to catch his fall….  Anyway, I pinned two pillows together and rolled two towels between them so that Ian could slip his arm in and keep it protected.  He hated the towels in there, so he just stuck his arm between the two pillows.  Then I put a very large pillow next to him to keep him from falling out of bed.  There were probably 12 pillows on the bed.  I’m not kidding.  I know I’m crazy.  I know.  I just don’t want him to hurt himself. 🙂

Poor Ian had a lot of pain in the middle of the night .  I woke up to him moaning…  I don’t even think he knew he was making any sound.  I got up and got him some pretzels so that he could take the pain medicine.  After seeing how poorly he felt, I decided that I should stay home with him today.  I took Emma and the boys to school this morning and spent the day with him.

The rest of the day was good.  I picked the kids up from school and took them for a donut date after school.  Then we came home and played outside.  It was nice and non-eventful.  Ian is still in pain.  He says that it never really goes away.  The medicine just makes it a little more bearable.  I’ve told him that he is allowed to take TWO pills, but he hasn’t wanted to so far.  I think I might have convinced him to take two before bed so he can sleep well tonight.

Thanks again for reading.  Please continue to pray for Ian’s pain, and for his hand and wound on his hip to heal healthily.  Dr Pederson said that his skin can become infected and we are really praying that this does not happen.  He explained that the new skin on his hand can be compared to planting new sod in your yard. It will take a while, possible take in some areas quicker than others, and of course, the whole thing can get scraped off and destroyed.  We are praying for a perfect result from the surgery.  Its difficult for us because we can’t see it, and there is not much that we can do to help other than leave it alone and keep the boys away.  God continues to show us that HE is in control of all things and that all we can do is trust Him.  So far, so good!

love, denisse

surgery update.

Even though I can’t keep my eyes open, I want to write to thank all of you for your prayers today.  It was a big day.  The kids spent the night with friends so Ian and I were able to leave the house really early to get there.  Dr. Pederson had to do a last minute surgery so he didn’t get started with Ian until 9:45am.  I really appreciate your kind words and encouraging notes this morning.  They really help make this easier.

My sweet friend Melanie came and sat with me in the waiting room.  We had a great conversation and I was glad to be distracted from thinking about Ian.  After she left and we hit the two hour mark in the operating room, I started to get impatient and worried.  Luckily that didn’t last long and sweet Lenzie Davis showed up with her big smile and some lunch.

Dr Pederson came out to the waiting room to talk to me when it was over.  He said that the surgery went well.  He found some muscle that was dead 😦  and removed it.  He said that he was able to pull the thumb away from the palm and used skin from Ian’s hip to cover it.  Ian has a pin in his hand (we are not sure where exactly) that will keep his thumb from moving.  The plan is to see him in one week to make sure that everything is healing nicely.  Ian and I will not be able to see his hand at all for a whole week.  We have no idea what it looks like.  We will get our first peek when he uncovers it in the office next week.  Pederson told me that Ian’s hand is not pretty.  I told him that it doesn’t matter what it looks like as long as he can use it!  Overall, Pederson seemed pleased with the surgery.  He did not put the pin to lengthen his thumb like we thought he would.  That will have to happen in a later surgery.

After surgery Ian was in recovery and they let me sit with him while he was there.  It took him a long while to wake up after surgery.  According to the anesthesiologist and nurses most patients wake up within 30 minutes.  Ian was not alert or ready to wake up that quickly.  He was very drowsy and nauseated, and finally woke up two hours later.  Those two hours were tough for me.  I was relieved when he finally woke up and was his usual funny self.

Overall the day went very well.  I’m grateful for friends who took care of my children so that I could take care of my husband.  Ian is really needing help tonight and he doesn’t feel totally better yet.  I pray that God will continue to give me strength to take care of everyone.  So far, so good!

I apologize if I have rambled… I really am exhausted but didn’t want to go to bed without writing to thank all of you and give you an update.  Good night, sweet friends!  You are all such a blessing to our family!

love, denisse


Also, Lenzie created a Care Calendar for meals for our family.  We appreciate meals so much!  Here is the info for that.

The HELPER logon is used by family and friends
that would like to sign-up to help a loved one.

To access Warshak Family’s personal CareCalendar site,
visit and enter
the following information in the appropriate spaces:

CALENDAR ID   :   141529


as promised.

I promised that I would post pics of Ian’s hands.  Here they are.  This is a difficult post for me.  Its much easier to say that Ian lost his fingers than it is to actually show people photos of his hands with no fingers.  But, here goes.


both hands. back.

both hands. back.

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left hand. palm.


left hand. side view.

left hand. side view.


Now, before you feel sorry for Ian, DON’T!  The Mama Bear in me will come out!!!  I assure you that he can still type faster than most people.  He can drive and has figured out how to do most things in life.  His right hand is pretty good…  Too bad he is left handed. 🙂  However, we admit that his left hand can use some improvement.  So, we have decided to move forward with reconstructing it.   The surgery will open up the space between Ian’s thumb and index finger bone. Dr Pederson will use a skin graft from Ian’s hip to cover it. In addition, he is going to take out the index finger bone completely to give him even more of a web space to hold things.   **keep in mind that Ian does NOT have an index finger… This is the bone in the palm of his hand that we are talking about.


I wanted to share something else with you.  Something a little more personal.  Last week, while I was at Bible study with some of the sweetest ladies I’ve ever met, I shared a little piece of my heart.  I don’t do that often, but one of them told me that my words encouraged her so I will share my thoughts with you, too.  Here goes…

I miss Ian’s fingers.  I really do.  It makes me cry when I think about the fact that I will never again feel his fingers intertwined with mine.  I try not to think about it.  Because it makes me sad.  And I don’t want to seem ungrateful that he is here with me by focusing on that.

I also miss his feet.  We’ve always had a king size bed, and we both like our own space to sleep, but every once in a while, we would fall asleep with our feet overlapping one other.  I miss that.  We won’t ever be able to do that again.

I don’t share these things to make you feel sorry for me and Ian.  I say it because I hope that you don’t take it for granted in your life if you have it.  Protect your marriage.  Love your spouse.  Appreciate every single moment.  Marriage can be tough.. but definitely worth it.

ian & denisse palms.

holding hands.


And there you have it.  I’m finished with a post I’ve been dreading for months.  Thank you LORD for helping me through it!  Please please pray for Ian and our family Wednesday and any other time you think about us.  We pray for a smooth surgery with quick healing and no infection.  We pray for no pain for Ian…. God knows he’s already been through so much!  Pray for Dr Pederson.  Even wise, experienced doctors need God’s help.  Pray for our sweet babies.  Pray for my best friend Christy who is always brave enough to take care of my babies.


Love, denisse